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Christina and Meghan talk about the heart and soul of the podcast and list actionable tricks to jumpstart your resilience in the face of hard things. You can do it, we believe in you!
Announcing *drum roll please* our new website! Visit fullcupclubpodcast.com to submit questions and episode ideas, apply to be a guest on the pod, find all of our episodes, and more!
Full Book Cup Club Book of the Month:
Each month we choose a book to read together. Join us in reading this month's Full Book Cup Club book of the month: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero
Previous FBCC books:
If you find this podcast helpful, please subscribe and leave us a review! Having reviews is the best way for people to find this podcast. New episodes are available every Wednesday. Thanks for being here! You can also support the show by buying us a coffee :)
Find us on our website, Facebook, and Instagram too!
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Meghan
So last week we talked about goals, right? And a goal that I didn't share because I had several for the year, but a goal that I didn't share is that I wanted to make us a new website for the Full Cup Club podcast. And Kristina, it's January 8th when we're recording this and I'm done now I get to post the rest of the year.
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Meghan
We have an official, we have a new website, you know. Yeah. So on this website it's cool. You can find all of our episodes and all the show notes, but then also you can submit to you can submit ideas for episodes or questions, and then you can also apply to be a guest on our show.
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Christina
Yes, and that's exciting. So like, I'm out like friends. I'm like out like hanging out with friends. And I get in my car and message from Megan's, like, I built this a website, and I'm like, this girl just doesn't sleep. She just goes, goes, goes. I'm out playing and having fun, and.
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Meghan
She says, I.
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Christina
Still have.
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Meghan
Goals. I track them, I achieve them.
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Christina
There we go.
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Meghan
Hi, I'm Megan and I am Christina.
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Christina
And this is a Full Cup Club podcast.
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Meghan
We're here to talk through the good, the bad and the ugly of loss, whether that's losing a loved one, a job, a dream, or even your marbles.
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Christina
So whether your cup has coffee, tea or vodka and it. Welcome to the Full Cup Club. Hey, friends. On today's episode, we are sharing with you something fun.
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Meghan
And but we're not going to tell you it is in France.
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Christina
Okay, so we're going to talk about getting back up when you get knocked down and there's more to it. But before we get into it, Megan, what is in your life? Okay, what is left in your cup today? Because we've been sipping on our beverages before you started. That was physically and metaphorically in your car.
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Meghan
So today I have a sparkling lemonade from Trader Joe's, my last one. Oh, rest in peace to my box of sparkling lemonade. It's super good. I recommend it. I think it's one that they have.
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Christina
It's a year. Yeah. I think it's year around.
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Meghan
Yeah, it's pretty good. And then metaphorically what's filling my cup is I kicked off the new year with getting sick, got COVID, I got it. After three years of dodging it like a ninja, I finally got it the week between Christmas and New Year's when I didn't see anybody anyway. Like, that's such a weird week to get any kind of sickness, right?
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Meghan
Because I was just at home, so I've no idea. But anyway, kicked off the new year with being sick. But I am recovered. How feeling good.
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Christina
You just barely got it. Like two days ago and you're already recovered.
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Meghan
And I wasn't. She had built a.
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Christina
Website while she was. Yeah. And airplane and make it on her deathbed making a website.
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Meghan
No, no it wasn't I it's so weird how differently it affects. Different. Yeah. It just, it wasn't, it was not that I had a fever for a couple of days and then I was stuffy. So what is physically and metaphorically filling your cup?
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Christina
Okay, so what is feeling recover right now? What is in my cup is again the key lime Lacroix man. I am just loving it.
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Meghan
I love that you love it.
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Christina
I know like you, you got addicted. So there is. Yeah let's see. And what is filling my cup. A couple of different things so I'm. I'm not ready to share yet.
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Meghan
But.
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Christina
I am getting a new dog and that is really bringing me life right now.
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Meghan
Yeah, that's exciting.
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Christina
Because if you guys remember, we lost our dog unexpectedly in July and my son just wasn't ready. We are still processing now. Was hard and so the other day I said, hey, are you ready? And he said, yes. And so we will not get her for a few more weeks. But honestly, it's just that whole thing getting excited about that and honestly having a companion because after losing Michael, you don't have that physical touch.
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Christina
And I didn't recognize that for a long time. Like how important contact, physical contact is for people. And so it's been over six months now and I just really miss having that companion. And so yeah, she will be here around February, so.
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Meghan
I'll.
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Christina
Post pictures of her.
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Meghan
I'm sure soon.
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Christina
I will have a dog I can dress up in closed.
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Meghan
You.
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Christina
Okay. So in today's podcast we are talking about getting up when you've been knocked down and that really has been the heart, our heart since we started this podcast. We wanted to have that conversation today about why that is important to us and really our hearts moving forward. It's been our heart since we started, but we just really want to reiterate that today and share with you some things that we have planned for this upcoming year, because we are coming up on our second year with the podcast.
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Christina
So we're back to celebrate our first year.
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Meghan
Today is is episode 50 no. Okay. But it's episode 50, which is a milestone.
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Christina
Yes, that is definitely and also just a shout out like let me take a second and I wish I had my notes in front of me.
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Meghan
All of the.
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Christina
Listeners, we've got listeners all over the world and that is mind blowing. I think we are on four different continents that like our listening to our podcast, we have people from, you know, Germany, there are people in Australia. It's just crazy like to see all of this and so all over the place. Thank you guys for listening. Please write in and tell us where you're from.
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Christina
We love seeing that, but pretty soon we will have.
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Meghan
A can do that. Now on our new website.
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Christina
Yeah, you can see so and so. Yeah. And if you're joining us today for the first time and you have lost someone and that is how you found us, somebody share this podcast, I would really encourage you to go back to episode one and hear how Meghan and I met. Episode two is Meghan, Story third is mine. And really to walk through that beginning journey with us, because right now you're hearing us and we're like, Hey, like we're really bubbly, but we know that everybody's in a different state and maybe that's where you're coming to the table right now is maybe you are in that acute first phases of grief.
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Christina
And so we want to recognize this may not be where you want to start, jump back to episode one and, you know, roll through those so on today's episode again, we're going to talk about getting back up and when you get knocked down and why that's important to us about getting back up. So Megan, why is it so important to you in this process in life and just in general that you get back up?
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Christina
Why is that important to you?
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Meghan
I think because. Because I don't want to waste time. Mm hmm. I don't you know, I want to be I want to live my life to the fullest. So I don't want to stay down for too long, whether it's, you know, with grief. But also, I mean, I am notoriously bad about getting back to sports and exercise and fitness before I am probably shed.
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Meghan
Mm hmm. After recovering from an injury or something. You know, I just have always been like, no, I can walk it off. I can get over it, I can get through it. You know, I've always been that way because I don't want to waste time not being able to do the things that I want to do. I see.
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Meghan
You know, so time is, is probably my number one reason for like not wanting to stay down. Now, when Jason died, I was down for a while. Like that was not an easy thing to recover from. But still, it was important to me to like, look to the future and just grasp at anything I could to pull myself out of it, you know?
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Meghan
What about you? You know.
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Christina
I think it's just been such a part of my life. When I was 11, our family had something really hard happen. And all I know is to keep getting back up. And so staying back down, it just doesn't feel like an option for me a lot of times. And so and that's in really big, hard things and it kind of because I'm future oriented, I'm like mentally making a plan of like, okay, if something happens, you know what?
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Christina
What am I going to do? So I don't know. Which is like something inside me is just like not I can't stay, stay down. That's really hard for me. But it could just be my makeup, you know, my personality and something that so I don't know why. I just know that it's part.
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Meghan
Of.
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Christina
It's part of my past. And that's all I know how to do is just like, keep getting back up.
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Meghan
I definitely think that the more experience you have getting back up after something hard, the easier it becomes in the future. Yes.
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Christina
I agree. I think one thing that is I've recognized is it's almost like this a rebound thing. And I don't mean, you know, doing something dumb. You know, you hear about people breaking up and then like, oh, this is a rebound person. No, I think it's that thing about the faster that you get back up, you know, thinking about exercise, because I worked with clients years ago where that we were getting them back on track to being healthy.
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Christina
And it's like every time you get off track, the faster you can get back on track with an exercise. So maybe it used to take you six months to a year to get back into an exercise routine, but then maybe you went from six months to three months and then the next time you get off track, maybe it only took you a month to get back on track.
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Christina
And so that's kind of how I think about getting back up is the faster you can get back up, the less time you waste in between. And I am 48 years old and I can tell you I really had that like big aha moment the other day where it's like 48, like I am, you know, potentially halfway through my life.
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Christina
I don't have a lot of life to waste. I had somebody today that she said, I'm 70, and she was talking about a situation where she felt like her time was being wasted and she's like, I don't have a lot of time to waste. And so I think that that's what's important is because if you have not experienced loss, I don't know that it is easy to like to just fully let it hit you how short life is.
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Christina
Because I think before that you kind of think like, oh, like I'm going to live. Like, you really don't.
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Meghan
Mm hmm.
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Christina
It doesn't fully hate you. And then after you lose someone, you're like, oh, like, yeah.
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Meghan
But, oh, this could be mine in an instant.
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Christina
And an instant. Oh, yes. And my husband was 45. Your husband? I mean, 46. How old was your husband?
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Meghan
How old? He was 44.
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Christina
44. So for those of you who are listening, who are like, oh, I still have like me thinking like I saw 50 years, know I could have 5 minutes. Like that's the reality. And so the faster that you can rebound, the faster you can get back up, the less of your life you waste. And we are not talking about not processing that right when we definitely encourage you to heal and go through all of that.
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Christina
We're going to talk about that. But that's how I feel about it, is that I don't have a lot of life to waste staying down.
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Meghan
Yeah, exactly. So, yeah, that's what I was saying. Time. Time is the is the motivator. Hmm. So if you are struggling with getting back up, you don't know where to start. You're like just swimming in a sea of just, like, sadness. One thing that helped both of us is to make a routine for me. I made a routine after Jason died.
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Meghan
And, you know, so it was like I would wake up, I would feed the dog, make my coffee, whatever. I had one of one key part of the routine, my morning routine to wake up was opening all the curtains in my house. I called it waking up my house so I would let all of the sunshine in so that I'm not just in this like dark dungeon all day.
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Meghan
I have natural light coming in, which is good for you. And I would also and this is important, I would light my good candles, those good ones from bath and body where, you know, or Yankee Candle, the ones that you before maybe used to save for when people come over. No, you light those for yourself. Mm hmm. And I would do that.
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Meghan
And I would buy in the sense that I loved and I would light the good candles. So that was something that it seems silly like. It seems silly to even say that now, but it really helped me and that.
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Christina
Those things truly do help for for me, I already had a routine established. I had heard on a podcast one time where that the person doing the podcast, someone had written and, and said like, my mom passed and I'm having a really hard time and I'm having a hard time establishing a routine. And the person on the podcast said something to the effect of, Oh no, like the whole reason that I want to like really encourage a routine to start before is for when you get basically like are in this place where life has just like you're landed like what the heck has happened when the routine is established ahead of time, there's all that
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Christina
muscle memory. So for me I had a routine established. I am not like somebody that I don't think of myself as an organized person or somebody who is like highly disciplined. That's just not how I see myself. I'm more like, go with the flow. But I had a routine established like when I got up in the morning and I made my bed and I made coffee and my goal and I would sit and have breakfast together.
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Christina
I would practice gratitude. All of those things were part of my morning and so that was muscle memory. So I felt like I had these quick wins. So either way, whether you establish that before, you know, things hit the fan or after, the really nice thing about that is little tiny things, even if you can only do one thing, you're like, okay, I'm going to make my bed today.
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Christina
And that is sure it's a quick when you feel like, okay, I've, I've gotten a couple of things accomplished before my day began. So making yourself a cup of coffee, whatever that looks like, it's just a really nice win for the day right off the bat.
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Meghan
So yes, whatever it looks like for you, but I also really encourage you to open your curtains and just try it. So true if your if you're a person that just like leaves your blinds closed all day, just try opening and closing night so you get to reopen them in the morning. Mm hmm. That makes such a big difference.
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Christina
It is it. That is so true. So. So think of things like that. Like Megan said, like lighting a good candle. For me, it was making a good cup of coffee. Whatever those things are. There's something in my life right now that and this is just a side note, but to help put this in perspective is treating myself like I would treat a beloved friend or honored guest.
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Christina
And in this point in your life, if you are going through something hard, you really need to take care of yourself. Think of yourself like what would you do for your best friend? And think of those really nice things. What? I make her a nice cup of tea at 2:00 every day. Would I sit with her and just have time with her?
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Christina
What or him? Whatever that looks.
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Meghan
Like.
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Christina
Think of those really nice, lovely things that you can do for yourself in this hard season. Because yeah you want to be gentle with yourself as you're getting back up.
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Meghan
Mhm. Exactly. So speaking of healing and moving forward, the second little we've been calling me is bullet points of wisdom and what we're talking about in the notes. So our second bullet point of wisdom is to practice act of healing. Yeah. That means be intentional about healing, seek it out. So that might mean counseling, that might mean looking for books on the topic, whatever you're going through or following people on social media that are going through that same thing.
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Meghan
So it's like you are are finding a support group, right? Being intentional about processing and moving forward. Yes.
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Christina
And I mean, out of all of those, I would say find yourself a counselor if that is something that you're able to do, because I always love that a counselor does not have any skin in the game. They're not your mom. They're not your spouse. They're not your best friend. They have nothing to win in that situation. And and if you don't know where to get resources on whatever you're dealing with, a lot of times a counselor is a really good person to point you in that direction.
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Christina
So if you're completely lost right now, a counselor is a good place to start.
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Meghan
Yeah, that's a good point. Think about what you can do today. What do you have the tools for right now? Mm hmm. To move forward. Right. So maybe that's I know that for a lot of people, it's hard to figure out, like, where can I go for therapy with your insurance or whatever, you know, because it's not always easy to just determine that.
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Meghan
So but what can you do today? Can you meditate? Can you think about the things that you're grateful for? Like, can you just make yourself a delicious cup of coffee? Right. What is it that you can do right now to move forward and then do that all the time? So when you're being intentional about healing, you're just you're constantly thinking, okay, what can I do right now to move forward?
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Meghan
Is that meal prep a little bit so that I don't have as I'm not overwhelmed tomorrow when I get home from work. Is that ordering a book on Amazon or getting an audible membership so you can listen to books about whatever topic it is? You know, maybe you just want to zone out into some sci fi or rodent romance.
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Meghan
You know, no judgment here.
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Christina
Also, as far as processing when you're going through this is picking a time of day. One of the things that a lot of times when you're going through really hard things, I know when I lost my husband, I had so much. You're just running. So maybe it's that you've had this major upheaval in your life, whatever that is, you lost your job, you losses, and you are you're scrambling.
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Christina
You're trying to figure things out, to set a time of day. My counselor suggested setting a time of day to set and process that. And so I think 7:00 at night and I've talked about this a little bit before, but like I wasn't giving myself time to graze. I didn't have time to move. I had paperwork to do.
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Christina
I had things to plan, I had things to deal with. And so if you are that person and you are under a high volume of stress and encourage you to pick a time of day and give yourself 20 minutes to sit and process what you're going through.
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Meghan
How do you do that? I don't think I could do that. I don't think I could save it all for 20 minutes or save it all for a specific time. You know, it was.
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Christina
Just to be intentional. I think it's really just that thing of being intentional because other people were having time to grieve. My husband's loss and I wasn't they weren't dealing with paperwork. They weren't dealing with mountains of of things like that. And so other people were further along in the grieving process than I was. And I was a couple of months out.
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Christina
And I, counselor had to say, hey, like pick a time. So like I would 7:00 at night, I would go sit in my comfy chair and just give myself time to process that. And eventually that turned into me sitting at the beach with a cup of coffee. I lived near the coast and so pick picking somewhere for me that I could set every day and then even do more processing.
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Christina
But yeah, if you are there, I don't know what the situation might be, but if you just don't have time, you know, maybe you've got little kids at home and you don't have time to process, just mean intentional, whatever that looks like. If it's hiding in the bathroom for 5 minutes, give yourself some time because you're maybe dealing with something that seems, you know, insurmountable and you know, you need time.
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Meghan
Uh huh.
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Christina
Another thing that I think is important when we're processing things, we're not always processing. Like I said, we're not always processing grief. Maybe there's something that we're processing that we're like, Why is this happening? And we've never sat down to look at. I grew up in the church. I'm just going to like talk about it this way because a lot of people may understand this and maybe you've seen people and they're like, I this this thing keeps happening.
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Christina
And in the church, a lot of times, people would blame it on like, oh, I'm I'm years ago not saying now, but people would be like Satan's attacking me and stuff. And I was a little kid and I'm like, it sure looks like you are. You're doing this to yourself. You're putting yourself in this situation. But I was a little kid.
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Christina
What did I know? And so I think that a lot of times we can be, ah, I don't know if I want to say our own worst enemy, but we keep putting ourselves a lot of times in situations where we are bringing things on ourself and we have to take responsibility for that and say, am I repeating a pattern like I need to get to the bottom of this because this may actually be me?
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Christina
And you know what? Sometimes in these situations it's not. I love that we're reading a book by Jensen Crowe is the Book of the Month this month, and it's called You're a Badass. And one of the things that she talks about is, and I'm going to paraphrase, is that you may have been born into this situation. This may be your family history that messed up, but it's your responsibility to heal from that.
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Christina
And so if you need to get to the bottom and really sit with, you know, this thing keeps happening in my life.
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Meghan
And maybe it looks a.
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Christina
Little different and it's a little different in these situations. Maybe it's work, maybe it's relations shifts, but there is an underlying theme that's going on and that you may need to get to the bottom of that and be honest with yourself about this. Isn't all of these people around me, this is on me. And okay, you know what?
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Christina
This maybe I was primed for this as a kid growing up in my family, but it's my responsibility to heal that in me in order to move forward and not carry that with me into the future.
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Meghan
Yes, exactly. It's your responsibility to heal. And that brings us to our third bullet point of wisdom. You have to make the choice to get back up. It doesn't just happen. You have to actively choose it and you have to choose it every single day. When you're dealing with something hard, every single day, you're just grasping at something.
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Meghan
Some little, little hook or knob or little like rock climbing hold to just pull yourself up just a little bit more every single day. You have to think about who is your why, what is your why? Why do you want to get back up? Is it because you want to be the best parent? That was a lot of it for me.
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Meghan
I was like, Yeah, I got a kid. I can't just be I can't just be sad all the time. Like, Okay, going to be a mom, you know? So you've got to, you know, find inspiration. Who are those people? Follow them, try to be around them. Are they on social media? You can search hashtags, you can find groups.
00;24;36;01 - 00;25;02;08
Meghan
My one of my favorite Facebook groups, I think I've talked about it before, but it's called Handy Women and it's a group of with this just a bunch of women doing handy stuff. And it it ranges in skill level like some of these women, they've never they've never used a drill before. So it's such a big deal when they're, you know, I can't even think of a good example hanging something on the wall, hanging a picture.
00;25;02;08 - 00;25;11;18
Meghan
Right? But then other women are like, Hey, look, I redid my basement, you know, and I was like, I wired the electrical in the plumbing and it's awesome.
00;25;11;18 - 00;25;25;06
Christina
Yeah, I saw a went up today on there and it's not a widow group, it's just women, but it's a widow. And she was like, I used my leaf blower for the first time today and she's like, I'm sorry to my neighbors, but she was like, that was a whole thing. And it.
00;25;25;06 - 00;25;25;27
Meghan
Was just, oh.
00;25;25;27 - 00;25;30;26
Christina
I see. Like, you know, other people doing these things. I you're like, hey, so.
00;25;30;26 - 00;25;41;16
Meghan
And that's the thing in that group, it doesn't matter like where you are in the hand in on the handy scale, everybody's cheering, everybody on.
00;25;41;19 - 00;26;02;09
Christina
Yes. And I, I love that. Find the people like Megan saying find the people on social media that are cheering. I love theirs. And I'm going to jump really quick here. But I love there's a book and I couldn't remember the author, but oh, Abby Wambach and she.
00;26;02;09 - 00;26;03;27
Meghan
Wrote Wolfpack and.
00;26;03;27 - 00;26;27;17
Christina
I love that like in this thing of they're playing soccer, she played in the women's, I believe, Olympic soccer team. But and she talks about it's like, you know, the people on the team, like the people pointing back, like the person made the goal, but they're pointing back at the rest of the team. Look for the people who are cheering you on that when you cheer people on, they're cheering back for you.
00;26;27;28 - 00;26;35;13
Christina
Look for those people in social media. Look for those people around you to encourage you and inspire you. That that is a huge thing.
00;26;35;21 - 00;26;55;12
Meghan
Yeah. And find those people that are just a step ahead of you, you know, maybe they are a little bit better at you than one of your hobbies or just a little further along in the process of, of grief or healing or whatever. You find those people that are just a little further because those are the people you learn from.
00;26;55;12 - 00;27;00;03
Meghan
Those are the ones proving to you that it's possible to get better. That's.
00;27;00;03 - 00;27;00;19
Christina
Yes.
00;27;00;23 - 00;27;17;15
Meghan
So you know that you're going to get knocked down. We all do in life. It's probably going to happen way more times in the future. But the question is, will you choose to get back up? Are you going to choose to stay down? Because getting back up is a choice.
00;27;17;27 - 00;27;38;12
Christina
Absolutely is absolutely. And it's not an easy choice. We're not saying that easy when you get knocked down, but it is you can just lay there. You could just lay there and never get back up and just waste the rest of your life like being, you know, woe is me. And some people do choose that as something that they want to do.
00;27;38;12 - 00;27;54;28
Christina
They just want people to feel sorry for them. But it's like, get, get back up. It's it's not easy. It's going to be hard to think about when you're a little and you fall off your bike and you skinned your knee and it's just like, oh, you know, getting back up is not easy and it can be very painful.
00;27;55;16 - 00;28;06;20
Meghan
But it's worth it. Friends, it's so, so worth it because it's so much better to be back up because you've learned from all the hard things you've gone through. And the nice.
00;28;06;20 - 00;28;27;28
Christina
Thing is, is that, you know, like Megan said, there's going to be people that are going to come along behind you and you're going to be able to inspire them to get back up, to encourage them to get back up, to cheer them on. Were that other people in your community or in your family do not understand you're going to be the person that they can turn to?
00;28;27;29 - 00;28;56;19
Christina
I had a widow, a today. I had a sister of a widow, somebody who was recently widowed. And she just looked at me and she said, Can you give me any advice? No one else at that table could have given this woman advice. But she was saying, How do I help my sister? There are a lot of you out there who in different situations, maybe you've lost a job, maybe you know, you've gone through something really hard and nobody else in your community has gone through that, and you're going to be able to encourage somebody.
00;28;56;19 - 00;29;02;05
Christina
And it just it honestly, it feels amazing and goodness, you're so proud of yourself when you get back up.
00;29;02;27 - 00;29;36;12
Meghan
So yeah, yeah. Exactly. Better than ever. So as we move forward, maybe there will be fewer podcast episodes specifically about grief and loss as we shift more towards stories of people getting back up tools, resources, books, things like that about getting back up after you've been knocked down and as I mentioned, we do have a new website. So if you have any episode ideas, you can submit them right on our website.
00;29;36;12 - 00;30;05;11
Meghan
Full Cop Club podcast dot com. It's just right there on that home page, girl. You can get those episode ideas or questions or stuff you want us to cover. Do you want to be a guest on our podcast? We're going to start having guests and there's a form on the website for that too. So and then also we love when you share stories with us, so find us on Facebook and Instagram at Folk Up Club podcast.
00;30;05;27 - 00;30;27;23
Meghan
And if you love this podcast and you find it helpful or funny or anything, please leave a review. It's the best way for other people to find us. So if you if you have it in your heart to just leave us a rating or a few words, that would be fantastic because that is what really pushes this podcast out to people.
00;30;28;04 - 00;30;41;27
Christina
It helps us. You help someone else find us when you leave our review. And that is just one of the biggest things to use that you could give us. And also pay it forward to other people who are looking for help getting back up when they've been knocked down.
00;30;42;08 - 00;30;46;10
Meghan
Yeah. All right. Do you have anything else to add?
00;30;46;10 - 00;31;03;27
Christina
Just shout out to all of the people that are listening and all the places. It's fine. Yeah. I'm working on a map for you guys to see where everyone is. I never expected people to be listening in other countries. Like, it's pretty easy to get to see that. So thank you all. Thank you for sharing with one another.
00;31;04;17 - 00;31;24;14
Christina
I think we've hit almost all 50 states in the US, so that's exciting. We only have a few more at that, so we'll share those with you so you can bug your cousin and you know, rascal or wherever that has it. So yeah, Montana, I don't think we've had a listener in Montana. There's a couple of them.
00;31;24;14 - 00;31;31;29
Meghan
So Montana is huge. There is no excuse. Come on, let's see.
00;31;31;29 - 00;31;35;16
Christina
A huge spike there in Montana. So thank you all for listening.
00;31;35;23 - 00;32;03;04
Meghan
Okay, friends, whether your cup is empty, half full or overflowing, raise it up. Here's to getting back up after being knocked down. Cheers. Thank you so much for being here with us. Please subscribe to our podcast if you found it helpful and you can also find us on social media, on Instagram at for Cup Club podcast. And if you search full Club Club podcast on Facebook again, thanks friends and we'll see you next time.