13 - I Was So Angry

In this episode we talk about how anger bubbled up for us. Yes, it's one of the stages of grief, but it somehow was still surprising - not that we felt angry, but what caused the anger. Listen and join us in knowing that it's normal, it's temporary, and you are not alone!

Links:

"Anger is a Choice" by Tim LaHaye and Bob Philips - https://amzn.to/3ryrW1p

Coffee cup analogy: https://www.facebook.com/chezaree.van/posts/10221693825594770

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Transcript

00;00;00;01 - 00;00;25;13
Christina
Oh, my gosh. So the other night I had to have my son take me to the emergency room, and it just was really scary. We got there and I thought - I didn't know if honestly, if I was having a stroke or heart attack. It was very scary. I am 47. You know, having lost my husband, just you you freak out over that kind of stuff.

00;00;25;13 - 00;00;47;02
Christina
You're also scared for your kids. And so I'm in there. They are running all kinds of tests. I'm feeling really, really weird. It's not a normal feeling. I don't know what's happening. And they did all the tests and we were in there for several hours. And I'm just thinking while I'm there, like, is this the end? Is, is this what this looks like?

00;00;47;15 - 00;01;07;19
Christina
But mostly questioning have I been doing the things that I basically talk about all the time? Am I living my best life? Am I happy with the goals that I'm pursuing? If today was my last day, was I happy with today? You know, did I love the people? Did I do all the things? Did I pursue my goals?

00;01;07;19 - 00;01;10;18
Christina
And I was able to say yeah, I did all those things. And then -

00;01;11;08 - 00;01;29;13
Meghan
Can I just pause for a second. I love that you were in that scary moment and you're practicing what you preach. You know, you that's what we tell people. Yeah, right. And you were sitting there going, okay, this is it. Yeah. Did I do a good job? Did I do what I said I was going to do?

00;01;29;16 - 00;01;29;27
Meghan
I love that.

00;01;29;27 - 00;01;50;07
Christina
I take it very seriously when people hear me talk about stuff like I really do live that way. And so I was like, Hey, yeah, I, I feel, you know, it sucks if this was the end or if I'm going to end up, you know, having something that changes my life radically. I'm just sitting there processing that.

00;01;51;02 - 00;02;14;14
Christina
And then a couple of hours later, they came in and told me I was high. I had taken some CBD oil that said it was unleaded, but in reality it was fully leaded. And I, friends, was high as a kite. And so that is whatit was. So that was funny.

00;02;14;20 - 00;02;19;00
Meghan
That is the funniest emergency room story I've heard in a while.

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Christina
Normally it would say it had THC in it. So all of us were confused, but we were not confused when the urinalysis came back that I was, in fact, high as a kite. So yeah.

00;02;30;10 - 00;02;34;06
Meghan
Oh, my goodness. I'm glad you were high and not having a heart attack.

00;02;34;12 - 00;02;36;26
Christina
People are going to be like messaging us now. 

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Meghan
What's the link? What's the name brand? Yeah.

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Christina
We're going to need the link to that site. Yeah. So.

00;02;41;03 - 00;02;43;09
Meghan
Hi, I'm Meghan, 

00;02;43;18 - 00;02;46;00
Christina
and I'm Christina. and this is the Full Cup Club podcast.

00;02;46;14 - 00;02;55;20
Meghan
We're here to talk through the good, the bad and the ugly of loss, whether that's losing a loved one, a job, a dream, or even your marbles.

00;02;56;14 - 00;03;07;13
Christina
So whether your cup has coffee, tea, or vodka and it welcome to the full Cup Club, Friends on today's episode, first of all, hey, welcome to the full Cup Club.

00;03;07;18 - 00;03;12;13
Meghan
Welcome. Yeah, so glad you're here. But we're not happy about how you got here.

00;03;12;13 - 00;03;27;24
Christina
Yeah, exactly. But on today's episode, we're going to talk about anger. But before we do, Meghan, what is what? Okay, let's let's. We all know she's drinking static water. What flavor is your static water today, Meghan?

00;03;27;25 - 00;03;44;26
Meghan
Oh, my goodness. It's so funny that you corrected yourself, because today, one in a million. I'm not drinking sparkling water. I have iced coffee today I Oh. So it's just my usual iced coffee with - I like it with honey and half and half.

00;03;44;27 - 00;03;45;19
Christina
Oh, okay.

00;03;45;23 - 00;03;59;10
Meghan
Um, but, yeah, I was thinking, what flavor sparkling water should I get today? I thought, you know, it sounds better than that. Some caffeine. What what type of black tea are you drinking today?

00;03;59;11 - 00;04;05;23
Christina
Just a monster sized cup of black tea. Hot black tea. I mean, that's.

00;04;05;23 - 00;04;07;24
Meghan
Just do you put anything in it? I've asked you that before.

00;04;07;29 - 00;04;20;10
Christina
No, I, I really try to be careful. It's. Man, Sugar is such a gateway drug for me. It's terrible. I love it. And it loves me so much. It wants to stay on my body, so. Yeah.

00;04;21;26 - 00;04;22;25
Meghan
Yep. Same.

00;04;22;29 - 00;04;52;17
Christina
So on today's episode, we are talking about anger. And that is one of the stages of grief. We've, you know, if you've been around or you've experienced loss, you know, it's one of the stages. And, you know, if you have experienced it, it just it's not step one, step two, step three. I remember talking to my counselor and saying, I just wish I knew what stage I was in because I felt like it's kind of like you're playing a video game.

00;04;52;17 - 00;04;58;13
Christina
You're like, if I'm at level six and there's only seven levels, then I'm almost through this -

00;04;58;13 - 00;04;59;20
Meghan
- and I'm almost done. Yeah, you can like plan for it.

00;04;59;22 - 00;05;08;09
Christina
Yeah, yeah. And I couldn't you don't it just it bounces around. It's like you know, the lottery. Which will it be today? What are we doing today?

00;05;08;11 - 00;05;18;26
Meghan
And sometimes that's multiple at once, like we talked about like in "Inside Out" in the movie, where, you know, you're just feeling multiple emotions at one time. Yeah.

00;05;19;07 - 00;05;46;15
Christina
Yeah. So anger, we read this thing that says anger is sadness that has nowhere to go. And really today we want to make sure that you hear us say like, first of all, we are not professionals. In this. We are professionals on our story, our experience, this is ours. And everybody processes differently so we want you to know that it's normal.

00;05;46;26 - 00;05;49;14
Christina
Anger is a normal part of this process.

00;05;49;14 - 00;06;17;01
Meghan
Yes. I was surprised when I felt angry because I - it's not a natural emotion for me to just jump into. So it was surprising when I in those moments where I was like, why am I so angry? But it's normal. Some people are different. Some people thrive in anger. Like you, you see the trope of the, you know, the angry New Yorker.

00;06;17;05 - 00;06;31;17
Meghan
Right. I'm not saying all New Yorkers are angry. I'm just pointing out that there are people who just have a different approach to it. They thrive in it. Get a rush.

00;06;31;17 - 00;06;59;12
Christina
Yes. Yes. I am not one of those. However, Michael really struggled with anger when he was younger. That was so I am familiar with watching someone go through and deal with their anger. And that was a really big thing for him that he worked on that he read a book by Tim LaHaye, and I think the other guy's name is Phillips, and it was called "Anger as a Choice".

00;06;59;18 - 00;07;18;09
Christina
And he actually helped people walk through that process. And he was really big on - he could see it in other people, people that you would never thought of as angry. And he would say, hey, like I see this and you. And he was actually not that - he would be like, Hey, I have a really great book to read for you to read.

00;07;18;21 - 00;07;25;08
Christina
I think you'd like it. And then they'd read it and be like, How did you know I was angry? You know, it's like being so yeah, it's just.

00;07;25;08 - 00;07;34;06
Meghan
Like because he had that experience, he knew what it looked like on a deep level. Even when it wasn't obvious to other people. It's kind of like what we're doing here. We've been through -

00;07;34;29 - 00;07;37;11
Meghan
We've been through this. Yeah. So we're here to help.

00;07;37;11 - 00;07;59;20
Christina
Yeah. And part of his legacy was helping people who were angry to to work through that. So that that was something I am familiar with. It's just not something that I live in. I don't, I don't choose to stay angry for a long time. That's just not a lot. It's a lot like you that that's just not in my makeup.

00;07;59;20 - 00;08;06;25
Christina
That I automatically get angry. I really try to dig down and see where is this coming from? What is the root of this?

00;08;06;25 - 00;08;37;07
Meghan
Yeah, because anger isn't the first step. It's, you know, sadness or jealousy or poor time management, you know, it's stress, things like that. So what's causing the anger? After Jason died, I would see people on social media, my friends and their husbands and their perfect little happy lives, and I would be so pissed. And and these were people I knew and loved.

00;08;37;07 - 00;08;58;01
Meghan
Real life friends real life family, you know, not not just like, you know, strangers on social media. It's like people I knew. And I'd see them and be so mad, like, who who are you to post a picture with your husband? How dare you? Don't you know what I'm feeling right now, you know? Yeah. And I recognized it.

00;08;58;01 - 00;09;17;29
Meghan
I was surprised that I was angry, but I was definitely angry. I had to I had to kind of navigate my way through it. I was angry at them being happy. I was angry that they got to be happy with their spouse or with their girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever it was. I was just angry that they were a happy couple.

00;09;18;09 - 00;09;39;02
Meghan
And I didn't have that anymore. And I had to really, like, sit with that and figure out, okay, am I jealous? Am I sad? What is it? You know, what is it that's making me angry? I got off social media. It was kind of like when I stopped drinking alcohol, I realized it was it was not serving me well.

00;09;39;02 - 00;09;40;08
Meghan
It was serving me poorly.

00;09;40;08 - 00;09;40;19
Christina
Yeah.

00;09;40;19 - 00;10;06;25
Meghan
So I stopped looking at social media. I would only use it for my business. I wouldn't like scroll you know, so I, I had to think about what is it that I could do to get past this I knew in my soul that my friends were good. I knew that they weren't posting a picture of their happy lives.

00;10;07;04 - 00;10;30;25
Meghan
To point out that my life was not happy at that moment, you know? Yeah, I knew that. I mean, of course they of course they were posting a picture because they were they're, you know, they're allowed to, they're happy. But I had to just really look in myself and think, Okay, let's think about this. Why are we angry right now?

00;10;31;05 - 00;10;33;11
Meghan
What is it? You know? 

00;10;33;24 - 00;11;03;17
Christina
Yes. For me, I remember the first time very vividly being angry. I as we've talked about before, I would go and sit at the beach and process, and I live in a retirement community. And so you see a lot of older couples walking up and down the beach and oh, that really was something that was hard for me to see because in my case, what I recognized was I was grieving the loss of the plans we had of getting to grow old together.

00;11;03;17 - 00;11;30;21
Christina
And so I really I was really angry to see these couples and think, do they know how lucky they are? Do they have any clue how fortunate they are to have had this many years together? And then I would really have to stop and check myself and say, you don't know that they're happy. You don't know, like like they may be the great a great couple and they may absolutely know how lucky they are.

00;11;31;03 - 00;11;48;21
Christina
And there were thoughts that I would have I would really sit there and process this and think you know what? Maybe they both lost their lost their spouses five years ago. And this is, you know, them having a second chance at happiness. So I really had to sit there and go, why am I angry? What is what is that?

00;11;48;21 - 00;11;54;21
Christina
And then really think, like, am I being rational about this? No, you know, I was hurting.

00;11;54;25 - 00;12;14;21
Meghan
Yeah. That's a good reminder that when somebody who has lost somebody, you know, whether it's a significant other, a child, a friend, a parent, whatever, they're going through it emotionally, you know, so if they have an outburst at you.

00;12;14;21 - 00;12;15;06
Christina
Yeah.

00;12;15;16 - 00;12;39;25
Meghan
Just, you know, if you can find it within yourself to just be calm and graceful with it, just give them grace and just realize that it may not be what you did that they're angry about. They just might be bubbling - all these emotions may be bubbling within them and it just kind of explodes out.

00;12;39;26 - 00;13;12;22
Christina
Yes. I mean, we've we've been through something very traumatic. And I think sometimes, you know, Meghan and I were talking about this earlier. You can see people and you're like, why are they reacting that way? Why are they you know, they're they're seeming really erratic or they're over-the-top in their reaction in this doesn't make sense. And if you can pause and use some emotional intelligence in that moment and recognize this person has been through something traumatic, you know, maybe they have gone through several miscarriages or something like that.

00;13;12;22 - 00;13;36;29
Christina
And their reaction to something to you may seem out of character, but in reality, it's it's trauma coming out. And so if you can stop and hold space for for that and that moment for your parent, for your sister, for your friend, whomever that may be, your coworker, that that's might be what you're seeing is not them. They're not personally attacking you.

00;13;36;29 - 00;13;38;20
Christina
They're just they're really hurting.

00;13;38;21 - 00;13;39;03
Meghan
Right.

00;13;39;12 - 00;14;04;21
Christina
Another thing I had to do much like you, you said you got off social media or you didn't do a lot of scrolling. Michael's captain, who he, you know, very much respected and loved. He and his wife retired about a year ago, I want to say. And that was extremely difficult for me to watch because they're a few years older than us.

00;14;04;21 - 00;14;26;02
Christina
They were a few years further along in the process, but it was hard for me to watch them retire and get to hit that goal. And they moved and they bought a new place and just all of the stuff that they were doing. And I had and I recognized it wasn't them. I, you know, they weren't personally being happy, you know, to to upset me.

00;14;26;12 - 00;14;48;20
Christina
But I recognized that I had to unfollow them for a season that that was, you know, hard for me and and process like it's that loss you're grieving the loss of of a dream. You're grieving the loss of your goals and that there can be a lot of anger in why are other people getting to have those, you know, getting to hit those.

00;14;48;21 - 00;14;49;05
Meghan
Right.

00;14;49;07 - 00;15;02;23
Christina
So yeah and I follow them now. It's fun to see, you know, what they're doing at their new place and and all of that stuff. So remember like if you're feeling this it a lot of times it's just for a season while you process and sometimes - 

00;15;02;23 - 00;15;03;23
Meghan
Yeah, it's temporary.

00;15;03;23 - 00;15;24;22
Christina
Sometimes you might need to take a step away from certain people while you're in this because sometimes you can just be really toxic. I've had that experience where I knew that it was not going to be healthy for me to be around people because I didn't want what I was feeling to, you know, basically be vomited on them.

00;15;24;24 - 00;15;37;12
Christina
It wasn't fair to them. And so I needed to process that and I need to find somebody safe to process that with. So for me, that was counseling and that was people that I trusted.

00;15;37;13 - 00;15;56;06
Meghan
Yeah, that's a good point that you made that it's temporary. It may not feel like it. You might just feel like you're in this anger bubble right now and you just there's no way out. But you will, you will move forward. And I'm not angry at my friends for being happy anymore.

00;15;58;12 - 00;16;07;06
Meghan
But like Christina said, I didn't unfollow, but I did mute some people, you know, or you know, where you're still following them, but they don't show up in your feed.

00;16;07;06 - 00;16;09;21
Christina
That's what I did as well. You can unfollow.

00;16;09;23 - 00;16;12;29
Meghan
Yeah, that's. Oh, you're talking on Facebook. Yes. I'm talking about -

00;16;12;29 - 00;16;14;01
Christina
Oh, Instagram.

00;16;14;01 - 00;16;17;07
Meghan
Yes. We're talking about the same thing that they use different words for it.

00;16;17;07 - 00;16;37;23
Christina
So if you yes. If you are on social media and you don't know that's possible, don't don't go through and unfriend people. There is actually somewhere that you can like Meghan said, you can mute them on Instagram, you can unfollow them on Facebook and still be their friend. And so that when you're healed up, you can go back and follow if that is something that's hard for you.

00;16;37;25 - 00;16;44;00
Meghan
As a as an aside, that is something I do a lot during election season.

00;16;46;15 - 00;16;51;21
Meghan
Social media gives a little a little crazy. And so I just mute a bunch of people.

00;16;51;24 - 00;17;21;15
Christina
Well, Meghan and I, if you stick around enough, you will know protecting our peace is very important for both of us. And so, yeah, do what you need to do to take care of yourself in the season and find the things that work well for you. Because, yeah, anger is it can be very destructive and it can build on itself and it can get very toxic and you want to be able to sit and feel those feelings.

00;17;21;15 - 00;17;31;10
Christina
It is very important to do that, but you don't want to let it get out of control. And spend the rest of your life in that circle and, you know, spinning and that anger.

00;17;31;19 - 00;17;58;23
Meghan
Right. So what what you can do is drill down and and first ask yourself, why am I angry? What is it? What is causing the anger? And get specific with it. You know, is it the loss of the dreams of retirement that you had with your person? Or is it that you've had X number of miscarriages and you see these people on social media calling their kids jerks?

00;17;58;23 - 00;18;20;02
Meghan
You know, is it - what is triggering you? Yeah, but then what is the root cause? Is it jealousy or are you stressed out? Are you are you sad? You know, what is it? Yeah. And then once you have those answers, the second thing to do is what can you do to get out of it? What can you do to climb out of that hole?

00;18;20;12 - 00;18;45;01
Meghan
Is it we talked about in episode 11 - you just need to feel an emotion for a 90 seconds for it to pass. So if you sit with that emotion, sit with your anger for 90 seconds and don't let it snowball, just sit with what is causing you to be angry and feel it and breathe for a 90 seconds. Will, that help you?

00;18;45;11 - 00;19;18;06
Meghan
Is it a bigger picture thing where you want to go to therapy or counseling? Is this the time to introduce a meditation practice to your routine - and meditation sounds like this big scary monster I think that, you know, only like Tibetan monks do on mountaintops, but meditation can just be for a few minutes. You know, you can meditate for 5 minutes and feel better. Is it that you just need to get outside, feel some sunshine?

00;19;18;23 - 00;19;51;11
Meghan
Um, could you practice gratitude in that moment where you're like, Okay, I lost my husband, but I'm so grateful for the years we had together, or yes, I'm grateful for the experiences we shared or getting to babysit my niece and nephew, you know, whatever it looks like for you in that moment around what you're angry about, what can you find within that to be grateful for?

00;19;51;11 - 00;19;53;15
Meghan
Is it the lessons that you're learning?

00;19;53;15 - 00;20;27;27
Christina
I think one of the things that to recognize here is our experiences are not necessarily reflective of maybe your experiences - you as a listener. And I want to for us to recognize that to stop and for some people, maybe there were really hard circumstances. Maybe you didn't get the closure that you needed with your spouse or your child or whoever you lost, maybe you never got the apology that you needed from that person.

00;20;27;27 - 00;20;30;15
Meghan
Right, maybe you had a really difficult relationship.

00;20;30;15 - 00;20;56;29
Christina
Yeah. And so for those of you who have experience that it's not just, oh, I saw a couple and they were happy and that that was upsetting for me. That maybe nothing and for you, you may be dealing with a much larger hurt and pain, and maybe feelings of abandonment or whatever that looks like, or betrayal, whatever that looks like.

00;20;59;03 - 00;21;22;10
Christina
I would encourage you or find someone to talk to that you can a professional or someone you trust or someone who's gone through something similar, somebody who's dealt with it in a healthy way. Look for people that you're like, Oh my goodness, Sarah over there is gone through something really hard. How did she handle this? Because I would be pissed if I were Sarah.

00;21;22;10 - 00;21;44;24
Christina
And Sarah may be able to give you the tools that she used, or point you to where she, you know, where the tools that her toolbox came from. But we recognize that that for some of you, the anger is years and years of of hurt and pain, and the person passed in and you never got closure.

00;21;44;24 - 00;22;05;08
Christina
And so if you that person - life is so short. And I think that when we we understand how short our lives are, if you've lost somebody, it gives you a whole new perspective. And it's too short to sit and be angry.

00;22;05;13 - 00;22;30;11
Meghan
Yes. I always go back to what can I control? I can control myself. That's what that's what I had to focus on was, okay, what can I what can I control here? I can be grateful. I can focus on my family, you know, my son and my business. What what can I do to get out of this? And then, you know, it passes, right?

00;22;30;11 - 00;22;38;23
Meghan
And like I said, or like Christina said, my anger was nothing compared to what other people might feel.

00;22;38;23 - 00;23;11;02
Christina
Yeah. There are some people who have gone through some pretty hard things in their in their life with the person that they lost and I just really want to, if that is you, to encourage you to get the help that you need because you are worth having a better quality of life. You know, if you have 30 years left, if you have 50 years left, if you have 70 years left of your life, do you really want this to be the foundation for the rest of your life?

00;23;11;17 - 00;23;37;00
Christina
Work through it and be able to move forward and live a, live a happy life. I am very much about leaving a healthier legacy than what I was raised with in my life. And so I don't want to pass that on to other people. I don't want to pass that on to my children. So do the work that helps because your life, there's value to the rest of your life.

00;23;37;19 - 00;24;15;03
Christina
You are valuable and you have things to contribute to other people and love to give. And if you are angry that - when I'm angry when I have been in situations like this where I was grieving the loss of a job and I was angry and there was a lot of emotions wrapped up in that, one of the things that helped me was to realize that if I died, if I died that day, all of this anger that I'm dealing with, all of this anger that I'm talking about constantly to Michael, I didn't want I don't want that to be the legacy that I leave behind.

00;24;15;12 - 00;24;44;27
Christina
I didn't even want to be in my own body when I was so angry and upset and I felt very toxic. And so if that is you, if you're listening and that resonates with you, take the steps to get healthy, take the steps to take care of yourself and deal with that anger. There's tons of stuff on the Internet, even if you can't, you know, read some books, find some things, do the work because you deserve it.

00;24;45;22 - 00;24;59;24
Christina
You are worth it. You have, you have a life beyond what is happening now. And I feel like we do need to sit with our anger but we also don't need to waste the rest of our lives being angry. Let's be honest.

00;25;00;02 - 00;25;21;27
Meghan
That reminds me of a quote. I think you sent it to me. It was a quote or a poem or something I can't remember, but I will quote it appropriately in the show notes, where it was talking about if somebody bumps you when you spill your coffee, why do you spill coffee? And it's because coffee was in your cup.

00;25;22;06 - 00;26;01;09
Meghan
But if somebody bumped to you and you spill tea, that's because tea was in your cup. So whatever is in your cup is going to spill out. So what is your cup full of? Yes. Is that full of anger or is it full of gratitude? Is it full of joy? So that's what it was getting at. So if you, like Christina was saying, if you are sitting with anger and maybe you had something really, really hard and you're just you're staying angry about it, that's what's going to be spilling out, just like in Christina's case, where she was talking about, you know, if I die today, this legacy of constantly complaining about my job and

00;26;01;09 - 00;26;20;23
Meghan
being angry with my husband and my kids, that's what they're going to remember. That's going to be my legacy because that's what's spilling out of my cup. So again, just going back to what she said, it's important to figure it out. What are you angry about? What do you need to do to move forward?

00;26;20;29 - 00;26;43;23
Meghan
Something really hard happened to you. So maybe find a therapist or a good friend, somebody that you can talk to and work through it. Or maybe it just looks like checking out a book on anger management from the library. But, but that goes back to what I was saying is you can only control yourself. So what can you do to move forward in your life?

00;26;44;09 - 00;26;57;21
Christina
Yeah, Michael, the book that Michael always recommended, "Anger is a Choice". And I've only read part of it. He would he would try to get me to read it all the time. He had our children read it.

00;26;57;22 - 00;27;00;05
Meghan
You're like I'm not angry. You're the angry one.

00;27;01;02 - 00;27;29;22
Christina
I know, I know. And he's like, everybody's angry. But really just the idea that you get to choose and I don't think a lot of times we feel like that in life. We feel, like you said, it's like things are out of control and it's like, what can I control. Yeah. Coming back to this is - you get to choose and we hope you that you hear that and recognize that the people that are around you they're not trying to upset you.

00;27;29;22 - 00;27;38;20
Christina
And if you can just for that moment, recognize that their happiness is not, they're not trying to make you angry. So yeah.

00;27;40;08 - 00;27;51;29
Meghan
So I will link that book also in the show notes just make it a little bit easier if you're interested in it. And Christina, do you have anything else to add this episode?

00;27;52;01 - 00;28;08;13
Christina
No. I just want to say thank you again. It's just so nice when you guys write in and tell us a little bit more about your stories and how the podcast is helping you process your grief and loss.

00;28;08;16 - 00;28;09;24
Meghan
It's very humbling.

00;28;09;29 - 00;28;34;03
Christina
It is. It is. It is, to recognize that you guys are even listening and passing this on to other friends who are hurting. You're sharing this. And it is, it is incredibly humbling to know that what we're doing is making an impact in people's lives that we may never meet. And so thank you to those of you who are sharing.

00;28;35;03 - 00;28;56;07
Christina
I know Meghan's mentioned this before it is the best way when you when you write a review that helps other people to find us. It's the way that the algorithm works. So when you write a review, it it helps it to come up on search engines and stuff. So thank you to those of you who have taken the time out of your day to write reviews.

00;28;58;00 - 00;29;27;26
Meghan
Yes, thank you. So in closing, I would like to say that time is precious. Our lives are short So use that as your motivator to reach for gratitude, for positivity, for happiness, for joy. Because every minute you spend angry and upset and not dealing with it and not actively trying to move forward out of that, you lose a minute of happiness.

00;29;28;00 - 00;29;41;24
Meghan
Okay, friends. Well, the time has come. So whether your cup is empty half-Full or overflowing, raise it up. Here's to the craziness of life after loss. Cheers.

00;29;44;09 - 00;30;01;10
Meghan
Thank you so much for being here with us. Please subscribe to our podcast if you found it helpful. And you can also find us on social media on Instagram @fullcupclubpodcast. And if you search Full Cup Club Podcast on Facebook. Again, thanks, friends, and we'll see you next time.